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Spider bondage and the masochists of Wall Street

The pleasure in pain … Bondage for spiders … How Wall Street executives unwind … These news flashes and more in this week’s Sex in the Press.

Silky bondage

Most of us know how scary female black widow spiders like to devour their male partners before, after or during sex.

Mmmm protein.

But some spider species have males that have learned to fight back – for example, “by rendering the females unconscious with knock-out gas,” according to ‘Male spiders tie up their mates to keep from getting eaten’.

Meanwhile, male nursery web spiders use bondage to save their asses from getting eaten. “After foreplay, they hurry off to a place where they can both dangle freely upside-down on threads of silk. The male then wraps the female's legs in a veil of silk, cradles her with his legs, and enters the female. When the female finally gets fidgety, the male retreats to safety while she frees herself.”

Ah, such poetic elegance…

Pain makes us high

“For human beings, it appears that pain and pleasure have always been intertwined,” according to ‘Why pain feels good’.

Many humans actively search for pain through eating hot curries, jogging and/or getting a flogging by a dominatrix.

Pain and pleasure light up similar areas of the brain, release similar ‘bliss chemicals’, and trigger remarkably similar facial expressions.

“Cancer survivors, who had nerves in their spinal cord cut to relieve chronic abdominal pain, lost the ability to have orgasms. If their pain returned, so did the orgasms.”

“But why are some types of pain enjoyable, and others just plain agonising? One theory to explain it is ‘benign masochism’ – seeking out pain while maintaining the awareness that it won’t cause serious damage.”

“We make a difference between good pain and bad pain,” says Mistress Alexandra, a professional sadist based in London. “Bad pain indicates that something is not right, something we have to pay instant attention to. Then there’s good pain which is enjoyable. For example, when the shoulder starts pulling during bondage, that’s potentially unsafe so we release it.”

Thank you, Mistress.

NSFW (Not Safe for Wall Street)

The world of BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism) is mostly about theatrics, with clear roles and rules – along with ‘safe words’ for when the pleasure comes to close to real pain.

But BDSM can occasionally take much more extreme forms, according to the viral video ‘Confessions of a dominatrix’ where “a dominatrix sits down in our chair wearing a creepy mask to share the torturous techniques she uses with her high-powered clients.”

“A lot of, lot of guys are into CBT, which is cock and ball torture. And basically being powerless. I’ve had a lot of powerful Wall Street workers, who would come in, and in their jobs they are the dominatrix. So they would come in to feel like they don’t have power constantly. It was kind of a wake-up for them […] It was therapy.”

This ‘therapy’ involves panes of glass.

Not so silky.

 

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