Auntyji
thingkreations

Will I break her hymen if I finger her?

By Auntyji Tuesday, December 18, 2012 - 07:30
Q: My girlfriend wants me to finger her vagina – will it break her hymen? She also wants me to insert it deep inside. Is there any way I can prevent her hymen from breaking? Ravi, Ahmedabad.

Auntyji says… Ravi beta, ki haal chaal? Or like they say in Gujarati, kem cho majama? You are a lucky man Ravi puttar.

You should be happy that your girlfriend is taking the initiative and telling you what to do. Better follow her directions betaji. I am not kidding because most young men come to me with their problem that their girlfriend/wife doesn’t let them finger her. So you should be very happy that you can pleasure your girl. As far as she is enjoying it, why should you be bothered about anything else? She has let you know she is ready for this next step in your lovemaking, and her body is her body, after all.

Losing her virginity?

Ravi, really there is no need to worry about her hymen or tearing it. It’s true you could stretch her hymen by fingering. But as far as I go, this should not matter. It doesn’t mean she would no longer be a virgin, if that’s what you are worried about. ‘Losing your virginity’ means one thing and one thing only: having vaginal intercourse for the first time.

About the hymen

Frankly, I don’t know how much you know about hymen. So let me tell you a few facts about the female anatomy. Maybe this will help you calm down.

The hymen is a layer of skin around the opening of the vagina. It doesn’t usually cover up the entrance completely. And you can just gently push through so the opening and the thin skin stretches wide enough.

The hymen can also be stretched or torn by playing sports or using tampons. That doesn't mean a girl has lost her virginity. So a lack of hymen is not really a sign of sexual experience. Even a medical expert can’t tell for sure if a girl is a virgin or not.

So there you go. Very clearly betaji you are worrying yourself sick unnecessarily. For all you know, she could have broken her hymen while horseback riding much earlier. And you are sitting and stressing about breaking it while fingering.

Bleeding

In case you are worried about her not bleeding the first time. Then you should know that one should not even expect every girl to bleed at her first intercourse. Especially if the hymen has already been gently stretched during your excellent lovemaking!

If you take your time making love to her then she ought to be relaxed and there is also no need for it to cause her pain. Meanwhile, worrying about trying not to stretch or tear her hymen will probably make you so nervous it will spoil lovemaking for both of you.

Bigger picture

Ravi puttar, I hope with this I have solved most of your worry. Like they say in Punjab, khao pio aish karo mitron. Just stay calm and be happy and always look at the bigger picture. You should be grateful that the two of you love each other and are sexually compatible as well. The same folklore in Punjab goes on to say dil par kise da duhkao na.

Have questions? Join our discussion forum to have your questions answered or connect to us via Facebook.

Did you find this useful?

Comments
kya aisa ho sakta hai k kisi ladki ko first time sex krne ke dauran bleed hua , ar fir vo 3ya4 sal bad sex krti hai, to kya use dubara bleeding ho sakti hai.
Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap , un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh ek asurkshait tareeka hai, aur sirf aur sirf mahila ke period cycle pr depend hai. Bete yadi aap sex pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai
Pehle to bête ye suno ki Yadi hum apne partner ko bahut achchi tareh se nahin jaante, yeh toh bilkul surakshit nahin... HIV , STD, aur anchahe garbhdharan kabhi bhi, kisi ko bhi ho sakta hai. Condom bina sex ke baare mein, Socho bhi mat!! Pregnancy key chances 99% ho saktay hain bête .
Hmm! Jo bhee tark aap laga rahe hai bête uska koi bhee aadhar nahi hai. Isliye yeh baat mann se nikaliye kyunki pyar ka sabse eham pehlu hai vishwas aap woh rakhiye apne mann mein, Aur apne rishte ko mazboot banaiye. apnay mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/female-virginity-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mera or mere bf ka 6yrs ho gaya hai relation ka but mene uske sath aj tak sex nahi kiya.. mene socha shadi ho jayegi 1yr baad tab karungi. usne bhi kabhi force nahi kiya. but pichle 7mnt se wo mujse kuch dur ho gaya hai. thikse baat bhi nahi karta. kiya iski wajh sex to nahi? may usse bohot love karti hu n usse dur nahi rehna cahti
My penis size is 5 inches near about ..i jst wants to make it big enough! Is there any possibility nd way to make me out of ths difficulty it smtymes make me smwt embarassng
aunty ji me aur meri gf ne first time sex kiya,bleeding nai hoi.baad me oske stomuch me dard ve hoa, osne mujse kaha ki oske bladder me problem hai, aur jab ose period ate hai to bohat jyada dard hota hai, bladder problem ke karan ja period ke waja se oska hymen break ho sakta hai ja nai, kya easa ve ho sakta hai ki first time sex karne ke baad ve hymen na tote
Aunti g mein last night fingering ki wo b sirf Aik finger sy or koi 5 to 6 times Andr bahir kiya lkn mje bleeding nai hwi or na he itni pain... So plzzz tell me kya meri hymen break ho gai hai?
Aunti g mein last night fingering ki wo b sirf Aik finger sy or koi 5 to 6 times Andr bahir kiya lkn mje bleeding nai hwi or na he itni pain... So plzzz tell me kya meri hymen break ho gai hai?
Aunti g mein last night fingering ki wo b sirf Aik finger sy or koi 5 to 6 times Andr bahir kiya lkn mje bleeding nai hwi or na he itni pain... So plzzz tell me kya meri hymen break ho gai hai?
meri gf ka us din 1st tym tha n mene bohot try kia bt kuch b nhi hua bcz use bohot pain ho rha tha to mene kuch nhi kia bt mam use n mujhe b krna to tell me what to do n whc position is best 4 both
aunty my gf has makes sex at one time she tells me about that and she has a loose pussy and and her vagina is loose why i know is she makes first tym aur not and when i make sex with her my penis got direct to his penis without pain and but she was fingering everyday
Hellow aunty.mera hymen mere b.f nay break kar dia hay bohat bleeding hui OSI time abi mai kia Kari kia mai operation karwa lu kia operatio successful HP jaye game ya ni
Ma'am Mene apni gf ki vagina me apni fingure daali...to uski vagina me se blood nikala...pls mujhe bataaye ki koi problem to nhi hogi use aage jaake...mujhe bhut tension ho rahi hai...
mam need a help meri gf n me dono b sex k liye agree hai bt she is nt so romantic I fingered her kissed her I did anything to make her romantic bt I was unable so tell me which food or which medicine can help her to make her romantic
aunty...jb maine 1st time fingering ki to mere kam hua tha or bleeding bhi nhi hui thi...mere bf ne jb mere apni finger vagina me insert ki to bs thoda pain hua..lekin blood ek br bhi nhi aaya h..kya meri hymen break ho chuki h kya??? plzz answer me I m so warried about that.
There is absolutely no certainty! So you can just relax on this and take all precautions. Be safe and secure and don’t be in any rush, take it slow and enjoy the moment. Definitely use a condom.!!
tensed virgin
Mon, 09/08/2014 - 13:02
I tried to hav sex with my gf..she is virgin too..but i dnt know y when i tried to put my penis inside her .iooose my erection is there any way to overcome this problem?
I tried to sex many time with my wife.. but my panies did not insert propery .. what sex pose I try or what I have to do that I do sex properly .. she is vergin yet
Ramesh Chauhan
Wed, 09/10/2014 - 13:53
Aunty maine one week pahle apni g.f k sath pahli bar sex kia aur use pain hua lekin blood nahi aaya...aisa kyu..? Tell me plz....
I have been married for 2 years. However my wife has the fear and so does not even let me finger her. We are both virgins and now it is frustrating. Have given her all the time but its now getting too frustrating. Any advise as to how we can start our sex life
Ohhh very sad bête! First thing is that you are very nice human being so you are supporting her. Okay listen maybe you need to explore what her reasons are, why she is so rigid on this issue and what does she expect from you, Maybe she is under some fear or trauma, try and find that out beta!! Don’t be frustrated, be calm everything is gone be alright. Take care!
Mam meri gf ko abhi tk period nh aaya 8 dyz ho gaye or hamare bich aj tk sex nh hua bs upper upper se hua h pyar per sex nh kiya phr b period nh aaya.bs mne apna penis tch kiya thha near vegina plz meri help kijeye plz btaye k period q nh aaya abi tak koi prblm to nahin?
Dekho bete rocky pregnancy ke liye ek shukranu bhee bohot kaafi hai. After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Hi. Aunty.. I want to sex wt my gf bt im much afraid about breakage of hymen. Is it possible when i sex wt her it will break..
Auntyji.. In what time i can sex wit my wife without condome.. That she could not be preganat
Add new comment

Comment

  • Allowed HTML tags: <a href hreflang>