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FAQs Hymen and Virginity

Frequently asked questions about virginity and the hymen. No need to guess any more, we've got all the right info.

Can you see if a girl is a virgin?

No, in most cases, a doctor can’t tell. In rare cases, a doctor can tell in a girl with a thick hymen or one that covers her vaginal opening.

 

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Can the hymen tear through doing sports or using tampons?

Sports or using tampons can stretch or tear a hymen, but it all depends on the shape, size and thickness of your hymen.

Does the first time always hurt?

No. If a girl is relaxed and sexually aroused, it doesn’t hurt. If you’re very tense, the vagina can stay dry or tighten up. This increases the chance of the hymen tearing and intercourse being painful. The first time you’re often exited or nervous, so this can easily happen. But if you both take your time, it doesn’t hurt.

What is virginity?

Everyone agrees that whether you’re a boy or a girl, if you’ve never had sex, you’re a virgin. For girls, though, a lot of people believe that whether you’re a virgin or not depends on whether or not your hymen is intact. But the hymen can be torn or stretched in lots of ways without having any kind of sex. It’s not true that you can tell from a girl’s hymen whether she has had sex.

How do you lose your virginity?

People have different ideas about what kind of sex you need to have to lose your virginity. Is it only intercourse, with a penis in the vagina? Or does anal intercourse count? And what about oral sex?

Different people have different opinions, and it depends a lot on culture and religion. But everyone agrees that if you masturbate it doesn’t mean you’ve lost your virginity. And it’s a good way to explore your body and find out what feels good to you.

Ways of having sex: do you lose your virginity?

  • Masturbating (on your own): no
  • Kissing, stroking, feeling, caressing: no
  • Oral sex (stimulating the penis or vulva with your mouth): opinions vary depending on culture and tradition, or from one person to another
  • Anal intercourse (penis in the anus): opinions vary depending on culture and tradition, or from one person to another
  • Vaginal intercourse (penis in the vagina): yes

Do all girls or young women bleed when they first have sex?

No. Research has shown that a lot of girls don’t bleed the first time. For one thing, your hymen might have been stretched by using tampons or doing sport like horse riding. You might have a very thin or stretchy hymen, or have been born without a hymen at all

Whether you bleed or not says nothing about whether or not you’re a virgin.

 

What's more you don’t have to have sex to stretch or tear your hymen. It can happen through inserting a tampon, horse riding, cycling or stretching

If you take your time making love, so you’re relaxed and your vagina is moist, and your partner goes gently, you’re less likely to bleed. On the other hand, if your hymen is thick and not very stretchy, you might also bleed the second or third time you have sex. It doesn’t make you a super-virgin!

In some families it’s the custom for a girl to show a sheet with bloodstains after her wedding night. This is supposed to be proof that she was a virgin. They think if she can’t show any blood, she must have had intercourse with a boy before. But this isn’t true.

How can I make sure I bleed the first time?

Some girls particularly want to bleed on their wedding night. It might be to show a traditional bloodstained sheet to the family. They might want to convince their new husband they’re still a virgin, when in fact they aren’t. Or they might still be a virgin, but be worried their husband will have doubts about their virginity if they don’t bleed.

For all these reasons, girls look for ways to make sure they bleed on their wedding night. There are lots of tricks, ranging from pricking or cutting your finger and dripping some blood on the sheet, to using an ‘artificial hymen’. Some girls also opt to have an operation to have their hymen ‘restored’.

If you use one of these tricks, remember you’re helping to keep alive the myth that virgins always bleed the first time they have sex!

How can I have my hymen restored?

The term ‘restoration’ isn’t really right, because nothing is restored, but a new imitation hymen is made. There are two different types of hymen restoration operations:

  • A 'new hymen' is made by using your own vaginal lining to create a covering over the vagina opening. During sex, it tears and you bleed.The outer labia are sewn together to make a ‘new hymen’. This is called infibulation, and in many countries it’s illegal because it prevents the passage of menstrual blood.
     
  • Both operations aim to make the entrance to the vagina tighter so you bleed when the penis goes into the vagina. That is, if everything goes to plan, because there’s no guarantee it will work!

How can I prove I'm a virgin?

You can't really. A doctor can hardly ever tell for sure whether or not a girl has had a penis in her vagina. But sometimes, for one reason or another, a girl’s prospective in-laws doubt whether she’s a virgin, and the doctor doesn’t mind saving her a lot of trouble by giving her a ‘virginity certificate’!

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Jyoti beta, relax! Iss baare main chinta mat keejiye. Seal ya hymen bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Kayi mahilaon main toh ye jhilli janam se hi nahi hoti hain. Bilkul relaxed raho aur apna khayal karo. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Is the tightness of the vagina after 7 years of not having sex again will still be loose or back to the original tight.?
Yoni mein bahut elastic ya lachak hoti hai , leking lagatar sex karne se, us mein bhi ek swabahivik looseness yaa dheelapan aa jaata hai. AIsa nhin hi ki yadi hum sex kuch arsey tak na karein to yoni apne aap tight ho jaati hai.Mahila ke shareer pe aur jaankari ke liye yahan padhe… https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/her-body Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aftab khan
Thu, 11/26/2015 - 21:48
Hello aunty mai apne gf ko jab bhi sex karta hu mai 2 min se jyaada nahi tikta hu so please koi aisa upaaye bataaiye ki jyaada der tak kar saku sex
Beta jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, dont worry. So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee.aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. Iske alava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kam karne mai mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
yoni bahut choti hoti hai aur lacheele bhi. So Jald baazi mat keejiye, phele finger se try keejiye, koi lubrication use keejye… Lekin apki partner ko bahut hee relaxed rehana hai aur apko bhi is dauran bahut hee support karna hai. Poora ling ek hee baar andar jaaye yeh bilkul zaroori nahin, aur na hee iski rai dee jaati hai. iske barre mein yeh padhiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Beta jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, dont worry. So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee.aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. Iske alava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kam karne mai mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mene apni gf ke Saath sex kiya but penis poor tarah se vegina ke ander bhi ni Gya or Na hi spurms vegina ke ander eject hue hai phir bhi use periods ni as Rahe Hain esa kyon
Yadd rakhiye chahye ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo jo ki unsafe sex ke 10 din ke baad lete hain ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Anonymous
Wed, 02/08/2017 - 20:43
Kia masterbation karne se ya kabhi kbhi fingring karne se virginity loose hotibha i mean kia agar koi larki fingering karti ho to kia us ki bleeding nai ho gi frst time sex karne pe
Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. isliye jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hain aap is baat ka pata nahi laga saktay. Aur bete, zaroori nahi ki first time sex main har mahila ko bleeding ho hi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hello aunty ji mne gf k sath sex kiya tha 3 baar but teeno baar Puri trike s nhi hua or periods k thode time Baad hi hmare bich unsafe sex hua AB wo ye janana chahti h ki pragenent hain ya nhi kse PTA lgaye
Bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Jo ki unsafe sex ke 10 din ke baad lete hain. Aur yaad rakhein ki iske liye morning urine sample behtar maana jata hai. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Pummy beta, unsafe sex ke 10 din baad aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Beta, hymen ya jhilli masturbation ke bina bhi badi aasaani se tut sakti hain. tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Isliye pehli baar sex karne par hymen ke kaaran bleeding hona zaroori nahi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Kya ladki k part me peridos k ak din pahle fingering karne se uska period miss ya late ho sakta h kya.or agar late ho gya h to kya wo pragnent h.ye kaise pata chale
Vishal beta, fingering se pregnancy sambhav nahi hain. Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaroori hai. jo ki sirf Yoni Maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
aunty ji mere bf ne mere sath 1 time sex krne ki koshish ki thi 15 year ki age me jise sex ke time blood hua tha but sex proper sex ni hua blood ke hote hi hmne kuchh nhi kiya. ab mujhe ye dar h ki virginity tut gai ab dar h ki after marriage husband ko kuchh pata na chal jaye phle mujhe in sab ke bare me kuchh nhi pata tha....blood hua tha but sex nhi hua...
Relax, Pooja beti. Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Isliye jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hain woh is baat ka pata nahi laga sakte! Lekin sex mein jo bhi karein safe karein. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Suraj bete, seal ya hymen ki jhilli , bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Kai auraton main toh yeh janam se nahi hoti. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhi nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
hi mam mera ek questions he jise lekr ne bhot pershan hu kya fingering krne se virginity loss ho jati he kyu ki mene fingering kri he or me jana chti hu ki fingering sex se phele hi kr rkhi ho tho kya sex krte time bleeding nhi hogi plz ans me
Hi, Ritika beti. Hymen ki jhilli ke tootne ke baare main aap vistaar se yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/will-i-break-her-hymen-if-i-finger-her Yaad rakhiye first time sex main bleeding ho, yeh bikul zaroori nahi. Hymen bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Isliye first time sex karte hue hymen ke kaaran bleeding ho, yeh bilkul zaroori nahi. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sonia beti, yeh ho sakta hai ki wahan ke muscles thode khul jaaye, jo ki bada hone ka ehsaas deyta hai. Yeh umar ke saath bhi ho sakta hai, sirf sex se ho yeh zaroori nahin. Ab isko aap ek aur nazar se bhi dekh sakte hain aur woh yeh hai ki aap bhi yeh keh saktee hai ki unka size aapko chhota lagta hai, so kya who kuch kar saktey hain? Nahin na? So yeh baat ka kya faayda? Apni sex life mein variety laaye, aur dono ko sex mein anand mile who hi achcha sex hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/makig-love https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hi mam.. Mam meri abhi abhi shaadi hui hai.. Maine first tym mere husband K sath sex kiya tb 2-3 boond hi khoon nikla uske baad 3-4 din tk daily thoda thoda khoon nikalta raha... Mere husband ka maanna hai k first tym sex me bahut jyada khoon nikalta hai mera ni nikla mtlb mai virgin nhin hun.. Balki aisa nhin hai mam plz btaiye mai kya krun...??
Hi, Sona beti. Is baat ko jaaniye aur samajhiye ki first time mein bleeding hona bilkul zaroori nahi. Hymen ki jhilli bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Kai mahilaon mein toh yeh janm se hi nahin hoti. Isliye first time sex karne pe hymen ke kaaran bleeding ho, aisa zaroori nahi. Yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hi mam mujhe sabse question puchne hai mai roj 3 ghanta finguring karti hu aur mujhe bohot sex karne ka mann karta hai lekin isseh pahele v 4 ladko na finguring kiya hai .. aap please yeh bataye ki kya mai virgin hu?
Hi, Anjana beti. Sex ki ichchha hona bohot hi common hai par hum aapki ismein koi sahayata nahi kar sakte! Lekin aap hastmethun try kar saktay hain kyunki hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/women-masturbating Fingering aur virginty ke baare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/will-i-break-her-hymen-if-i-finger-her Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aisa hona sambhav nahi hain, Priya beti. Aapko dar kis baat ka hai? ki unhe pata chal jaygea, yeh nahin ho sakta beta. Seal ya hymen, bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Bilkul relaxed raho aur apna khayal karo. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Is baare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/will-i-break-her-hymen-if-i-finger-her Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Shiv bete, Seal ya hymen ki jhalli, bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Kai mahilaon mein toh yeh janm se hi nahi hoti. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mera name lalit hai or meri age 32 saal hai or mai unmarried hoon, sirf ye sochkar ki first time sirf apni wife k saath he sex karna hai maine kbhi kisi ladki k saatn sex nhi kiya, lakin mai 14 saal ki age se ab tak har roj din me kam se kam 3 se 6 baar musterbation karta hoon, khud ko nhi rok pata, is kaarn mera pennis bahut dheela ho chuka hai. or ek baat meri seal bhi abhi tak nhi tooti hai, mai jab bhi skin ko pichee karne ki kosis karta hoon to bahut dard hota hai. mujhe hamesha darr satata rehta hai ki kya dard or pennis k dheelepan k kaarn mai apni hone wali wife k saath sex kar paunga ya nhi. please meri help jaroor karein.
Lalit bete, iske liye hastmaithun ko zimmedaar mat maaniye kyunki yeh ek safe/surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jinmein aap samya bitaa sakte hain jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? Yeh bhi padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-could-masturbate-anytime-anywhere Bete penis ki skin ko nahate samay halke se pichchhe karke saaf karna hota hai jisse, waha saafai bani rahe, yadi aise karte samay koi zyada takleef ya blood aa raha hai toh ek doctor se mill lo iske baare mein. Aur jaankari ke liye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/penis Kahin aap kisi tension, pressure mein toh nahi hain na? Yeh samjh lijiye ki sex karne ke liye bilkul tanav mukt hona zaroori hai bête. Iss baare mein aur yaha padh lo : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction https://lovematters.in/hi/news/erection-trouble-where-turn Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hello mem me apni gf ke saath sex karna chahta hu pr me jb v penics daalta hu tohh ushe dard hota hai pta nhi Ku ....ya fir ushe dar lagta hai aap btao me ab kya karu
Dard hone ka ek sabse mehtvpurn karan yeh ho sakta hai ki aapki partner sex ke liye theek tarah se taiyyar hi nahi hui hon. Bete yeh baat bohot achchhe se samajh lo aap ki sex kare ke liye dono hi partners ko tanavmukat hona bohot hi zaruri hai! Aur dono ka taiyyar hona mentally, physically, emotionally bhi bohot zaroori hai. Ho sakta hai unhe koi darr ho ya doubt, yeh bhi ki woh pregnancy se darti ho ya society se? Jo bhi ho shayad woh abhi taiyyar nahin, pehle yeh sab baatein clear karo aur phir sex ki planning. Sirf ek person ready hai aur doosre nahin, so phir toh koi maza nahin na? Aap samajh rahe hain na mera matlab? Isliye make sure ki apki partner in sab cheezon ke liye tayyar hui hain. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ji nahi, Rahul bete! Yeh jaanne ka koi bhi tareeka mojjud nahi hai siwaye iske ki woh swayem apko yeh bateyin. Lekin pyar ka sabse eham pehlu hai vishwash aap woh rakhiye apne mann mein, aur apne rishte ko mazboot banaiye. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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