Hymen and virginity
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FAQs Hymen and Virginity

Frequently asked questions about virginity and the hymen. No need to guess any more, we've got all the right info.

Can you see if a girl is a virgin?

No, in most cases, a doctor can’t tell. In rare cases, a doctor can tell in a girl with a thick hymen or one that covers her vaginal opening.

 

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Can the hymen tear through doing sports or using tampons?

Sports or using tampons can stretch or tear a hymen, but it all depends on the shape, size and thickness of your hymen.

Does the first time always hurt?

No. If a girl is relaxed and sexually aroused, it doesn’t hurt. If you’re very tense, the vagina can stay dry or tighten up. This increases the chance of the hymen tearing and intercourse being painful. The first time you’re often exited or nervous, so this can easily happen. But if you both take your time, it doesn’t hurt.

What is virginity?

Everyone agrees that whether you’re a boy or a girl, if you’ve never had sex, you’re a virgin. For girls, though, a lot of people believe that whether you’re a virgin or not depends on whether or not your hymen is intact. But the hymen can be torn or stretched in lots of ways without having any kind of sex. It’s not true that you can tell from a girl’s hymen whether she has had sex.

How do you lose your virginity?

People have different ideas about what kind of sex you need to have to lose your virginity. Is it only intercourse, with a penis in the vagina? Or does anal intercourse count? And what about oral sex?

Different people have different opinions, and it depends a lot on culture and religion. But everyone agrees that if you masturbate it doesn’t mean you’ve lost your virginity. And it’s a good way to explore your body and find out what feels good to you.

Ways of having sex: do you lose your virginity?

  • Masturbating (on your own): no
  • Kissing, stroking, feeling, caressing: no
  • Oral sex (stimulating the penis or vulva with your mouth): opinions vary depending on culture and tradition, or from one person to another
  • Anal intercourse (penis in the anus): opinions vary depending on culture and tradition, or from one person to another
  • Vaginal intercourse (penis in the vagina): yes

Do all girls or young women bleed when they first have sex?

No. Research has shown that a lot of girls don’t bleed the first time. For one thing, your hymen might have been stretched by using tampons or doing sport like horse riding. You might have a very thin or stretchy hymen, or have been born without a hymen at all

Whether you bleed or not says nothing about whether or not you’re a virgin.

 

What's more you don’t have to have sex to stretch or tear your hymen. It can happen through inserting a tampon, horse riding, cycling or stretching

If you take your time making love, so you’re relaxed and your vagina is moist, and your partner goes gently, you’re less likely to bleed. On the other hand, if your hymen is thick and not very stretchy, you might also bleed the second or third time you have sex. It doesn’t make you a super-virgin!

In some families it’s the custom for a girl to show a sheet with bloodstains after her wedding night. This is supposed to be proof that she was a virgin. They think if she can’t show any blood, she must have had intercourse with a boy before. But this isn’t true.

How can I make sure I bleed the first time?

Some girls particularly want to bleed on their wedding night. It might be to show a traditional bloodstained sheet to the family. They might want to convince their new husband they’re still a virgin, when in fact they aren’t. Or they might still be a virgin, but be worried their husband will have doubts about their virginity if they don’t bleed.

For all these reasons, girls look for ways to make sure they bleed on their wedding night. There are lots of tricks, ranging from pricking or cutting your finger and dripping some blood on the sheet, to using an ‘artificial hymen’. Some girls also opt to have an operation to have their hymen ‘restored’.

If you use one of these tricks, remember you’re helping to keep alive the myth that virgins always bleed the first time they have sex!

How can I have my hymen restored?

The term ‘restoration’ isn’t really right, because nothing is restored, but a new imitation hymen is made. There are two different types of hymen restoration operations:

  • A 'new hymen' is made by using your own vaginal lining to create a covering over the vagina opening. During sex, it tears and you bleed.The outer labia are sewn together to make a ‘new hymen’. This is called infibulation, and in many countries it’s illegal because it prevents the passage of menstrual blood.
     
  • Both operations aim to make the entrance to the vagina tighter so you bleed when the penis goes into the vagina. That is, if everything goes to plan, because there’s no guarantee it will work!

How can I prove I'm a virgin?

You can't really. A doctor can hardly ever tell for sure whether or not a girl has had a penis in her vagina. But sometimes, for one reason or another, a girl’s prospective in-laws doubt whether she’s a virgin, and the doctor doesn’t mind saving her a lot of trouble by giving her a ‘virginity certificate’!

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Listen Mini bête, the only way one can make out or guess is if the hymen has broken, which can be for any reason actually. No one can know anyhow about your virginity unless you yourself didn’t admit or tell them about it ok? So don’t worry. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
meri gf ko fingering kiya or hands pr sperb laga,b nhi tha, fir bhi jo lubricant pani,, jaisa pehle bahar niklta,hai, wo hath pr touch ho gaya,,or us finger se girl ki yoni me fingering krne se pragnancy ho sakti hai kya??? Uska,,seal bhi brek nhi hua, tha, fir bhi kya, pragnancy ho skti hai kya????
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Hi mam mughe ek question puchhna tha ki agar sex karte time sperm yoni me hi gir jaye to kya koi esi medicine hai jise khane ke baad pregnancy ka koi khatra na ho
Jee han Raj bete I Pill ya Unwanted ek emergency goli hai jo ki unsafe sex ke 72 ghanton ke andar hee lee jaati hai, jitnee jaldi so behtar. Lekin yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padhiye zara: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/birth-control/top-10-facts-about-emergency-contraceptive-pills https://lovematters.in/hi/birth-control/chosing-the-right-birth-control/morning-after-pills-instead-of-condoms-is-that-ok Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam mene 2sal phle bf k sath sex krne pr Hyman tut gyi thi or blood bhi aaya tha lekin abhi meri sadi huyi or mere pati K sath sex krne bhi vapas blood aaya tha to vo kis Karan Ho skta h
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Cuty bete kuchh nahi karna chahiye. Kya aapko darr is baat ka hai ki kisi ko pata chal jaygea? Yeh nahin ho sakat beta. Seal ya hymen, kisi bhi cheez se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vigeh. Bilkul relaxed rahiye aur apna khayal kijiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/female-virginity-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaroori hai jo ki sirf yoni maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ji nahi, Rahul bete! Yeh jaanne ka koi bhi tareeka mojjud nahi hai siwaye iske ki woh swayem apko yeh bateyin. Lekin pyar ka sabse eham pehlu hai vishwash aap woh rakhiye apne mann mein, aur apne rishte ko mazboot banaiye. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aunty ji, please help me. Me apni gf se bahut pyaar karta hu lekin usko sex ke liye approach karne se thoda hesitate karta hu. Mene indirectly 2 baar usko approach kiya ki me uske sath alone time spend karna chahta hu lekin usne thik se haa nahi kaha. Please give me some tips ki me kaise usko approach karu ya manau ki wo maan jaye. I love her so much.
Dekhiye bete! kisi bhi sexual activity mein ek cheez bohot hi important hai woh hai dono logo ki sehmati. Yadi woh abhi is baat ke liye sehmat nahi hain toh aap bhi force mat kijiye. Yeh Jaaiz demand nahin. Aur bhi activities hai jo aap try kar sakte hain. Is baaray mein yaha padhein: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/meeting-someone/saying-no https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/do-indian-men-not-understand-consent Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hello mem me apni gf ke saath sex karna chahta hu pr me jb v penics daalta hu tohh ushe dard hota hai pta nhi Ku ....ya fir ushe dar lagta hai aap btao me ab kya karu
Dard hone ka ek sabse mehtvpurn karan yeh ho sakta hai ki aapki partner sex ke liye theek tarah se taiyyar hi nahi hui hon. Bete yeh baat bohot achchhe se samajh lo aap ki sex kare ke liye dono hi partners ko tanavmukat hona bohot hi zaruri hai! Aur dono ka taiyyar hona mentally, physically, emotionally bhi bohot zaroori hai. Ho sakta hai unhe koi darr ho ya doubt, yeh bhi ki woh pregnancy se darti ho ya society se? Jo bhi ho shayad woh abhi taiyyar nahin, pehle yeh sab baatein clear karo aur phir sex ki planning. Sirf ek person ready hai aur doosre nahin, so phir toh koi maza nahin na? Aap samajh rahe hain na mera matlab? Isliye make sure ki apki partner in sab cheezon ke liye tayyar hui hain. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mera name lalit hai or meri age 32 saal hai or mai unmarried hoon, sirf ye sochkar ki first time sirf apni wife k saath he sex karna hai maine kbhi kisi ladki k saatn sex nhi kiya, lakin mai 14 saal ki age se ab tak har roj din me kam se kam 3 se 6 baar musterbation karta hoon, khud ko nhi rok pata, is kaarn mera pennis bahut dheela ho chuka hai. or ek baat meri seal bhi abhi tak nhi tooti hai, mai jab bhi skin ko pichee karne ki kosis karta hoon to bahut dard hota hai. mujhe hamesha darr satata rehta hai ki kya dard or pennis k dheelepan k kaarn mai apni hone wali wife k saath sex kar paunga ya nhi. please meri help jaroor karein.
Lalit bete, iske liye hastmaithun ko zimmedaar mat maaniye kyunki yeh ek safe/surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jinmein aap samya bitaa sakte hain jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? Yeh bhi padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-could-masturbate-anytime-anywhere Bete penis ki skin ko nahate samay halke se pichchhe karke saaf karna hota hai jisse, waha saafai bani rahe, yadi aise karte samay koi zyada takleef ya blood aa raha hai toh ek doctor se mill lo iske baare mein. Aur jaankari ke liye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/penis Kahin aap kisi tension, pressure mein toh nahi hain na? Yeh samjh lijiye ki sex karne ke liye bilkul tanav mukt hona zaroori hai bête. Iss baare mein aur yaha padh lo : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction https://lovematters.in/hi/news/erection-trouble-where-turn Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Shiv bete, Seal ya hymen ki jhalli, bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Kai mahilaon mein toh yeh janm se hi nahi hoti. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Is baare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/will-i-break-her-hymen-if-i-finger-her Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aisa hona sambhav nahi hain, Priya beti. Aapko dar kis baat ka hai? ki unhe pata chal jaygea, yeh nahin ho sakta beta. Seal ya hymen, bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Bilkul relaxed raho aur apna khayal karo. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Lenni bete hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yeh bhee padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Fingering aur virginty ke baare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/will-i-break-her-hymen-if-i-finger-her
Hi mam mujhe sabse question puchne hai mai roj 3 ghanta finguring karti hu aur mujhe bohot sex karne ka mann karta hai lekin isseh pahele v 4 ladko na finguring kiya hai .. aap please yeh bataye ki kya mai virgin hu?
Hi, Anjana beti. Sex ki ichchha hona bohot hi common hai par hum aapki ismein koi sahayata nahi kar sakte! Lekin aap hastmethun try kar saktay hain kyunki hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/women-masturbating Fingering aur virginty ke baare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/will-i-break-her-hymen-if-i-finger-her Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hi mam.. Mam meri abhi abhi shaadi hui hai.. Maine first tym mere husband K sath sex kiya tb 2-3 boond hi khoon nikla uske baad 3-4 din tk daily thoda thoda khoon nikalta raha... Mere husband ka maanna hai k first tym sex me bahut jyada khoon nikalta hai mera ni nikla mtlb mai virgin nhin hun.. Balki aisa nhin hai mam plz btaiye mai kya krun...??
Hi, Sona beti. Is baat ko jaaniye aur samajhiye ki first time mein bleeding hona bilkul zaroori nahi. Hymen ki jhilli bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Kai mahilaon mein toh yeh janm se hi nahin hoti. Isliye first time sex karne pe hymen ke kaaran bleeding ho, aisa zaroori nahi. Yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sonia beti, yeh ho sakta hai ki wahan ke muscles thode khul jaaye, jo ki bada hone ka ehsaas deyta hai. Yeh umar ke saath bhi ho sakta hai, sirf sex se ho yeh zaroori nahin. Ab isko aap ek aur nazar se bhi dekh sakte hain aur woh yeh hai ki aap bhi yeh keh saktee hai ki unka size aapko chhota lagta hai, so kya who kuch kar saktey hain? Nahin na? So yeh baat ka kya faayda? Apni sex life mein variety laaye, aur dono ko sex mein anand mile who hi achcha sex hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/makig-love https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
hi mam mera ek questions he jise lekr ne bhot pershan hu kya fingering krne se virginity loss ho jati he kyu ki mene fingering kri he or me jana chti hu ki fingering sex se phele hi kr rkhi ho tho kya sex krte time bleeding nhi hogi plz ans me
Hi, Ritika beti. Hymen ki jhilli ke tootne ke baare main aap vistaar se yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/will-i-break-her-hymen-if-i-finger-her Yaad rakhiye first time sex main bleeding ho, yeh bikul zaroori nahi. Hymen bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Isliye first time sex karte hue hymen ke kaaran bleeding ho, yeh bilkul zaroori nahi. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhi nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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